Who we choose to marry is one of the most important and costliest decisions a person will make, yet it’s not uncommon for lovers to make errors in judgment. Why does this happen? One reason is that most of us aren’t raised with a healthy template of marriage to follow. We also lack self-awareness and may be afraid of ending up alone.

Another factor is unrealistic expectations of marriage because we grew up in the first generation for whom divorce continues to be accepted and common. According to author Pothos, lots of marriages seem to be trial marriages and people tie the knot with the notion of “If it doesn’t make me happy, I’ll just move on.” Since more and more individuals grow up in divorced homes where they witness divorce being the solution to marital problems, they may not approach marriage with a thoughtful mindset.

Unfortunately, many of us marry without obtaining critical information about our partners. For instance, we may not know that our father-in-law is a substance abuser or that our mother-in-law has a family history of mental illness. Sadly, we may put our faith in someone who we fall in love with blindly and fail to ask some of these crucial questions.

6 signs your partner is good marriage material:

1. You admire your partner for who they are as a person. You like and respect who he/she is and how they carry themselves through the world. If you can’t respect the way a person lives their life, let alone admire them, it’s hard to keep any relationship going.

2. Your partner is trustworthy because they keep agreements. Their actions are consistent with their words. When you share something personal you trust they will keep it to themselves.

3. He/she makes time for you on a regular basis. They make you a priority because they value your relationship. Even when he/she is swamped, they make time to spend with you. This includes regular text messages or phone calls to show that they’re thinking of you.

4. Your partner is comfortable talking about the things that interest you and asks you questions about your hobbies, friends and family. They appreciate you for who you are right now and aren’t trying to change you.

5. He/she makes you feel good about yourself. A partner who truly cares about you is a boost to your self-esteem. He/she values you and gives you compliments and praise.

6. You share a vision. Sharing a dream for your life together can help you gain a healthy perspective. When couples possess a shared vision, the inevitable ups and downs of marriage are less bothersome. Creating a larger context of meaning in life, can help couples to avoid focusing on the small stuff that happens and to keep their eyes on the big picture.

If you feel that your partner is the right person for you but you still fear commitment, you might want to consider the following: Know that no relationship is conflict free, but you are worthy of having a relationship that makes you happy. If you aren’t there yet, embrace where you are now. What is it that holds you back from achieving a satisfying relationship? And once you have it, what will you do when you get there?

The best partner will compliment you and bring out your very best. When you are with him or her, you will begin to see untapped possibilities within yourself and in the world. In any relationship, you will face ups and downs and your love will be tested. However, where admiration and respect are found, love will be sustained. But where these things are absent, love will die. Finding a partner who likes and respects you as much as you do him/her will give you the best chance of finding long-lasting love.

Ah, discussing se_x with women is quite an interesting experience. Just the other day, I asked one of my girl friends what she secretly wants her man to do to her in bed. Her reply was not what I expected. She basically had a list of errors.

"Well, he never kisses me when we make love. I hate that. Then there's the fact that he rarely, if ever, goes down on me. And if that's not terrible enough, he's done before I even get wet."

Yeah, enough with the whining already, I'm certain he has his own list as well, although I would never tell her that. Nevertheless, that's when I realized that perhaps I should word the question a little differently.

"No," I said, "what I mean is, do you have a secret se_xual desire that you wish he could just telepathically pick up on?" And that's when the conversation intensified...

5. Get Aggressive In Bed

Just about every woman I encountered had the words "more aggressive se_x" rolling off her tongue. From being tied up and spanked to having their hair pulled and being mildly asphyxiated, the women were quite enthusiastic about aggressive se_x.

Of course, I'm not implying that you should go home and smack your b!tch up, but instead, maybe a little roughing in the bedroom can work wonders for your se_x life. And if that's not enough, these women didn't simply want their men to be more aggressive; they wanted to, on occasion, be the aggressor.

4. Curse Like A Sailor

In the spirit of being vocal, believe it or not, dirty talk was mentioned quite often. But it wasn't the flowery variety; the talk that many women wanted was downright nasty. I guess tame bedroom antics went out with everlasting marriages.

The colorful language they were using had these women blushing, but their candidness was much appreciated. Of course, I can't write any of it here without being censored, but I'm certain you can use your imagination on this one.

3. Treat Her Like A Pr0stitute

Ah, fanta$ies, the beauty of them lies in the fact that many are not realized. But as one woman put it: "I am tired of being that precious lady in the bedroom. I'm tired of 'making love' and doing things gently all the time. I want him to have raunchy se_x with me and talk to me as though he just met me and cares nothing about what I want. I want him to ravish me like an animal and tell me to be quiet whenever I try to say something." Wow!

I guess, in the end, there are plenty of women who want to be, for lack of a better word, slu_tty in the bedroom. They simply fear that if they behave in such a manner, then their men will think less of them, and some are even afraid that their men will mistakenly begin treating them differently outside the bedroom as well. All the same, many women are big fans of scenarios such as the one described.

2. Longer, More Vocal Oral se_x

Whether it's for you or her, women want a whole lot more of oral se_x. To my surprise, many women were keen on performing for their men as well (many in hopes of reciprocation). What they secretly wanted was directions. Now I don't mean "no, no left, now a little to the right, now go up, down, up, down, oh yeah," but rather describing how and why you like it when she's down there. And noise; women secretly want to hear you making all kinds of pleasant noises that assure them that they're doing a good, uh, job.

Now, on to your deeds down there. What do women secretly want? They want you to get deep down in there with your mouth, use your fingers, and when necessary, penetrate her with your p3nis for a little while, and then get busy again with your mouth.

1. Focus On Her Entirely

It may sound like less of a fant.asy and more of a se_x tip, but a lot of women want their men to focus on their entire bodies. "I want him to l!ck and kiss everything from my ankles to the small of my back. I want him to arouse sensations that come from somewhere other than my vag!na," said one woman.

Maybe spending a little time on her inner thigh or kissing her wrist is not such a bad idea. And by doing so, she will likely do it to you as well, and who knows, maybe penetration will take a backseat to sensation.

Adolf Hitler (20 April 1889 – 30 April 1945) was an Austrian-born German politician and the leader of the Nazi Party. He was chancellor of Germany from 1933 to 1945 and dictator of Nazi Germany (as Führer und Reichskanzler) from 1934 to 1945. Hitler was at the centre of Nazi Germany, World War II in Europe, and the Holocaust. Hitler was a decorated veteran of World War I.

1) He was a high school dropout
He was a high school dropout. Not only that, but he repeated his sixth year and was rejected twice from art school. This takes the phrase “Hitler's stupid” to a very different place. While absolutely agreeing that the man's coming into power and entire regime is stupid (in that ridiculous, horribly absurd way), there was a genius to his craft of speech to make people believe not only the insane things he claimed, but also that they could be achieved. That craft? As an orator. The root of dictator is shared with dictate: a speaking role, a performing role.

2) Artistic Ambitions
While having artistic ambitions, there are a lot of burgeoning movements that he simply couldn't stand: cabaret, expressionism, and jazz music, for example. This contradiction can be accounted for by the ideological background of the artists that worked in each of the fields. Cabaret, for instance, was actively in political opposition to nazism and supported the free love of homosexuals, ineffectual citizens, and debauchery in general. Expressionism, like jazz, is not inherently political although the practitioners were in large part Jewish. Unlike jazz, the link to the artistic style and Jewish tradition is not apparent in expressionism (which doesn't mean that Hitler's hatred isn't as well).

3) Times Magazine announced Hitler the Man of the Year
In 1938, Times Magazine announced Hitler the Man of the Year — although political correctness has corrected this to Person of the Year. Joseph Stalin got it the following year, and then again in 1942 (aside from Winston Churchill and George W. Bush, the only person to win twice). Sure enough, Time has made some silly choices for the award, such as Middle Americans, Baby Boomers, the computer, and — my personal favorite — You, but Hitler! This comes well after the publication of Mein Kampf and its translation into English. Oh well, this can serve as a warning. To be the Person of the Year, you must have power, political or otherwise. Hitler is a good example of what evils power can spawn.

4) Slept a lot
Next time you're told off for staying in bed until 11 o'clock, just tell the one complaining that you'll be a world leader one day because Hitler often woke at this time. Really, he did. Suffering from insomnia, it was quite normal for him to be up, busying himself by pacing diagonally in his room, giving himself (medical) enemas, or some other peculiar habit of his. The reported regular bedtime for him was around four or five in the morning. This is surprising given the success of his missions, but not altogether useless as leader, for it teaches people to live around you.

5) Hitler never took of his jacket in public
For an orator, personal appearance is very important. As a result, Hitler never took of his jacket in public (presumably afraid of sweat marks), always wore pre-tied neckties (heaven forbid it should be out of place!), only wore full-length underwear (not so easily explained), etc. And since we're here, we might as well take a bash at his mustache: no one could convince him that it didn't work with the get-up. One day, he deluded himself, it will catch on because everyone will want to be like the Führer. I personally think it suits Chaplin much better.

6) A real Don Juan type
There were a number of ladies — one of his nieces included — that didn't much mind the little mustache. These women all shared one other passion, aside from his mo: suicide, or at the very least a romancing of death. His first girlfriend committed suicide; his last attempted it twice before finally fulfilling the dream in 1945 with her lover in her arms. In between, the stories are no different. The man really had an effect on women! A real Don Juan type.

7) He liked being kicked
What these women got from him sexually is another question. Perhaps it would be better to say “what he got from them.” Psychological assessments of Hitler, undertaken in his lifetime, concluded that he probably adored being urinated and defecated on. In fact, any sexual report regarding the man, be it psychological or a recount, suggests that he was rather strange in the sack. For example, he supposedly begged to be kicked repeatedly by one woman and is said to have had his guards videotape the torture of Jewish people for his own home-viewing pleasure.

8) Afraid of blades
If it is true that he liked to be dominated, then this next Hitler quirk is a very curious counterpart: he was afraid of blades in other peoples hands to the point of feeling terrified during haircuts. This must stem from paranoia that many people wanted to take his life (which they did). For the same reason, he always shaved himself, just in case. It's really another exhibition of his weakness — apparent by simply looking at his frame — but it really is a wonderful to imagine Hitler screaming on the barber's chair as if he were at the dentist.

9) Hitler was a vegetarian
If you've invited Hitler for dinner it might be good to ask whether he has any special dietary requirements. He does; Hitler was a vegetarian. It would then be an opportune time to ask yourself what you're doing inviting a genocidal lunatic into your house, onto your table, to eat off of your forks. Chances are, he's not interested in joining you for the Hare Krishna hiking weekend, but he did see (after Richard Wagner) vegetarianism as bridging a spiritual divide. Supposedly, he saw the future of Germany as vegetarian — a long way from the knockwurst we know and love.

10) Hitler invented the concept of blow-up dolls
Don't hold your breath. You're not going to guess this one. In order to avoid the situation of his soldiers, who have the same needs as anybody else, sleeping with one another (in which case they would have to be executed) or sleeping with the locals of regions they visited (and potentially procreating with Jews and being executed for that), Hitler came up with yet another brilliant idea: the blow-up doll. You know that breath you're not holding? It suddenly has somewhere else to be. Complete the job without the complete set! Don't screw the system, screw this plastic thing instead! However the proposal was constructed, I'm sure it would have been — if recorded — one of the funniest moments in history.

Intelligence comes in two forms: crystallized intelligence and fluid intelligence. Crystallized intelligence is stored-up information and how-to knowledge. This form of intelligence grows as you age. Fluid intelligence peaks in early adulthood and then begins to decline gradually with time. Psychologists now believe that this form of cleverness can be improved. By setting aside time to exercise your mind, you can become more creative, focus better, and solve problems quicker. Also, find out about the proper nutrients your brain needs for enhanced intelligence.

15 Secrets to Increasing I.Q.

1. Be Active

If you don’t exercise regularly, now is a good time to start. Exercise contributes to overall physical and mental health. Having a healthy body leads to development of intelligence.

2. Write

Some people find that a journal is a good way to organize thoughts. Simple writing helps you gain a new perspective when you go back and read what you wrote.

3. Meditate

Research shows that meditation makes you smarter. Meditation increases the ability of the brain to make physiological changes, increases gray and white brain matter, and enables “whole brain synchronization”. Whole brain synchronization allows the left side of the brain to be connected with the right hemisphere.

4. Think

Involve yourself with books, documentaries, or board games that require critical thinking skills. By challenging your current assumptions, you are making yourself smarter.

5. Read Every Day

Try to read something nonfiction at least 30 minutes each day. Reading increases your intelligence and keeps you well-informed.

6. Have Hobbies

Do the things you love on a regular basis. Whether it’s bowling, knitting, or fishing, the more fun you experience, the easier it will be for you to assimilate new information.

7. Study I.Q. Puzzles

I.Q. puzzles can be found at your local book store. To keep your mind sharp, go over these repeatedly.

8. Be Creative

Create something. Write an ebook, plant flowers, build a model car. Using your mind to create something improves your ability to think.

9. Explore New Cultures

Seek out different worldviews other than your own. Learn about other culture’s food, traditions, and language.

10. Play Competitive Games

Chess is a good example of a competitive game that adds to your cleverness. Log on to the Internet and play with others around the world. Facebook offers many competitive games.

11. Watch Specific TV Shows

Researchers have found that certain TV shows can help you improve intelligence. Watch shows that have overlapping plot strands, moral ambiguity, and a large number of primary characters.

12. Socially Network

According to a recent report in Discover Magazine, social interaction enhances synaptic activity of the brain.

13. Play Video Games

Moms across the world can all give a sigh of relief. Video games improve math abilities and classroom behavior.

14. Listen to Music

Recent research studies show there is a connection between listening to music and improved memory. Music listening also boosts skills in science and math.

15. Get Enough Sleep

Most people require between 7 to 8 hours of sleep each night. This time allows your brain to process the day by strengthening memories.

10 Foods that can Enhance Your I.Q.

1. Fish Oil

Whether you take supplements or eat wild salmon (or both), getting fish oil in your diet makes you smarter. Research shows that omega-3 fatty acids in fish oil are essential for brain function.

2. Vitamin B

The B vitamins improve memory and mood. Studies have shown that people who lack B vitamins in their bodies have greater mental decline. To get your Bs, eat turkey, beans, lentils, and bananas.

3. Breakfast

Dubbed “the most important meal of the day”, breakfast is brain food. Those who have a well-balanced breakfast show improved memory, creativity, focus, and overall performance.

4. Matcha

Matcha is a stone-ground, powered form of green tea, and it is an excellent food for increased mental alertness.

5. Antioxidants

These substances combat free-radicals in your body. To improve memory and problem solving, eat red kidney beans, blueberries, cranberries, and artichokes.

6. Ginkgo Biloba

Scientists have found that ginkgo biloba increases the blood flow to the brain to increase short-term memory, improve focus, and reduce dementia.

7. Avocado

This vegetable has monosaturated fat (the good kind), which increases blood flow. The brain needs blood to think. What’s more, avacados help lower blood pressure.

8. Meat and Fish

You find creatine in lean meat and fish. The body needs this substance for memory and intelligence. You can also buy creatine supplements at your local health food store.

9. Vitamin E

The E vitamin is necessary for brain health because it works as an antioxidant. Research has shown that Vitamin E delays the onset of Alzheimer’s disease. Eat leafy green vegetables, kiwi, and nuts to up your intake of this vital nutrient.

10. Ginseng

This root improves mental stimulation, memory, and brain function. One recent report indicates that ginseng protects the brain from toxins.

A new study says that having one drink each day is better for you than abstaining. The health benefits of including a moderate amount of alcohol in the diet have been vigorously debated in research. Now, a new study finds that drinking up to seven drinks a week is linked to a lower risk of developing heart failure in the future.

In a new study published in the European Heart Journal, researchers from Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston, MA, analyzed data from the Atherosclerosis Risk in Communities Study, which included 14,629 participants aged between 45 and 64 years.

The participants were recruited between 1987 and 1989 and they were followed for 24-25 years.

Interviews were conducted with the participants on their drinking habits at the start of the study and at follow-up interviews conducted at 3-yearly intervals.

A major study of some 15,000 men and women found that moderate but frequent alcohol consumption in early to middle age could reduce the risk of heart failure—when the heart becomes too weak to pump blood around the body at the right pressure—by 20 percent for men and 16 percent for women.

While there are, of course, a vast number of risks associated with drinking, this research has been more comprehensive than most: the team at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston analyzed data from its participants over the course of 25 years, investigating their alcohol intake during three visits made every three years. They categorized people into six groups: abstainers (who consumed no alcohol in between visits), former drinkers, people who had up to seven drinks a week, those who consumed 7-14 drinks during that time, and those who drank more than 21 alcoholic beverages weekly.

Around 2,500 of the participants developed heart failure—which affects more than 23 million worldwide—over the course of the study, the lowest rates of which were present among the group consuming seven drinks each week. Those who identified as abstainers and participants in the group consuming 7-14 drinks weekly were found to have a near-identical likeliness of developing heart failure, further indication that being teetotal bears little impact on one’s risk of the ailment.…

Protein

Protein is what typically every woman here will need to eat more of to help make your butt bigger. There is a common misconception that eating more protein or drinking protein shakes is only for bodybuilders. This could not be further from the truth. Every person on this planet requires protein rich foods for optimal health. In fact most people who aren’t working out or trying to grow would still benefit from increasing their protein consumption.

If you are exercising and trying to grow your bum, the amount of protein you require will increase, as protein lays down the building blocks for growth.

I recommend you try and get a protein source in every meal you eat. Around 15-30g of protein per meal. I also recommend you get yourself a good protein shake to drink after your workouts and possibly in a meal or two.

So what are some healthy sources of good protein for bigger buttocks:

1. Eggs
2. Skinless Chicken Breasts
3. Salmon
4. Tuna
5. Tilapia
6. Cottage Cheese
7. Turkey
8. Protein Powder
9. Steak
10. Beans & Legumes (kidney, chick peas, etc)
11. Extra Extra Lean Ground Beef
12. Vegetable Burger
13. Soya Nuts
14. Virtually Any Fish (not fried)
15. Most Lean Cut Meats
16. Quinoa
17. Brown Rice
18. Sweet Potatoes
19. Oats
20. Weetabix
21. Coos Coos
22. Ezekiel Bread
23. 100% Whole Grain Bread (sparingly)
24. Low Sugar Breakfast Cereal (sparingly)

Contrary to some old stereotypical bad beliefs that are still lingering on — fat does not make you fat. Excess calories and bad foods make you fat, and more prone to getting fat.

Healthy sources of good fats are essential, and can help to actually lose weight or achieve better body composition. Such healthy fat sources include:

1. Fish Fat/Oils (fish oil pills, salmon fat, etc)
2. Extra Virgin Olive Oil
3. Nuts (almonds, cashews, etc)
4. Peanut Butter (get the ones that contain only peanuts; typical peanut butter contains harmful additives like hydrogenated oils and sugar)
5. Almond Butter

Sex can be a bonding or loving experience, a formality, fun and exciting, or even immoral or illegal. Whatever you want to call it, there's no doubt that sex makes the world go 'round. Every culture is different, with different morals and lifestyles, and that is a great word to describe these ten particular practices: Different.

Westerners might consider themselves somewhat sexually liberated, or at least headed in that direction, and while that may be the case, there are some societies out there that make us look like painfully repressed prudes. Some of these cultures no longer exist, but there will always be people to take their place.

From a tribe of semen-drinking men to the community of brothers sharing a wife, amaze yourself with these 10 shocking tribal sex traditions from around the world.

Ancient Egypt
Ancient Egypt was a very sexualized culture, with very few social stigmas for most free men and women. The ebb and flow of the Nile was even thought to be caused by their god of creation's ejaculation. This idea caused the pharaohs – with their god-given potency – to ritually masturbate into the Nile to ensure a wealth of water for crops. During the Egyptian festival of the god Min, who represented the pharaoh's sexual power, men regularly masturbated in public.

Indonesia
In Indonesia, there is a celebration called Pon. The event is held seven times a year, during which participants travel to a sacred mountain on the island of Java to perform a ceremony of good luck and fortune through sex. Participants have to spend the night and have intercourse with someone other than their wife or husband. It is said that their wishes of good luck will only come true if they have sex with the same person at all seven celebrations throughout the year.

Ancient Greece
Ancient Greece was one of the most sexually prolific and accepting societies in history. Homosexuality was a regular social convention, publicly embraced, but Ancient Greece's tolerance alone isn't what makes their sexual culture bizarre. Sexual desire was not distinguished by the gender of two people, bur rather by an active/passive role that each participant played. The "active" person was the penetrator, mirroring their role in society with high status, adulthood, and masculinity. The "passive" person was the penetrated, mirroring their submissive role as someone with lower standing, and a more youthful countenance associated with femininity.

The most common form of same-sex relationships in Greece were between an older male and an adolescent boy. Pederasty was socially accepted without stigmas because the older man was supposed to act as a role model - teaching, protecting, and loving - to the boy. This practice was called "paiderastia," or, simply, "boy love." Until the boy was able to grow a full beard, he was not considered a man.

India
The Deer Horn Muria are a forest-dwelling tribe who live deep in Central India's Chhattisgarh region. They practice something called Ghotul, which is a festive mingling of teenage men and women to teach them songs, lore, tribal dance… and sex. At night, they engage in ceremonial orgies and sexual romps. Girls drink a natural liquor as an herbal contraceptive to avoid pregnancy and then choose different sexual partners every night (talk about every juvenile boy's dream). If the herbal drink doesn't work and the girl becomes pregnant, the entire village will adopt the baby since no one knows for sure who the father is. And here we thought the West was sexually liberated.

Haiti
Saut-d'Eau is a municipality in Haiti, and its waterfalls are an annual site of religious importance. Every summer in July, voodoo practitioners and religious enthusiasts make a pilgrimage to the holy site to take part in a Eucharistic rite, worshiping the goddess of love. The penultimate devotional activity involves everyone bathing naked under the waterfalls, asking for heavenly favors. Then, some extreme participants take part in a sexual dance, still naked, writhing around in a mixture of mud and the blood of sacrificed animals.

Niger
The "people of the taboo," or Wodaabe, are a tribe in Niger known for their beauty and rich cultural ceremonies. Traditionally, a person's first marriage is arranged by their parents while they're infants, and they must be married to cousins of the same lineage. At the annual Gerewol festival, Wodaabe men dress in elaborate costumes and makeup and then stand in a line in front of women to show off their beautiful teeth, faces, and features. Women pick new husbands from the men they are most impressed by, and if the new couple leaves without their current husband knowing, they become socially recognized. As opposed to the formal first marriage, this form of union is called a "love marriage."

The Himalayas
In the populated Himalayas, there is not much land available for farming and grazing, so families with more than one son would have to divide their land when each son starts his own family, providing even less agriculture per family. The solution to this is in finding a single wife for all of the sons of a family so that they can keep the plot and land intact. In some Nepalese communities, many brothers might share a single wife. Anthropologists call this form of polyandrous societal practice "fraternal polyandry", where a group of brothers share one wife. Apparently, the wife must be adept at scheduling time with each brother to keep jealous flares from rising.

Papau New Guinea
Papau New Guinea is one of the most culturally diverse countries on the planet with 848 different languages and as many traditional societies. The Trobriand tribe practices magic spells and passes them down through generations, often directing their spells to induce erotic feelings in their lover or to make a person beautiful. The beauty spells are chanted into coconut oil and then rubbed onto a person's skin. Also, the tribe is known for becoming sexually active at a young age. Girls often start having sex by the age of 6 to 8, while boys start at 10 to 12, with no social stigma. Another interesting titbit, while pre-marital sex is fine, pre-marital meal-sharing is not. Couples are not supposed to go out for dinner together until they are married but they can have sex before marriage.

Papau New Guinea Again
The Sambian tribe's sexual practices are more extreme than their Trobriand neighbors. Boys from Sambian society are removed from the presence of females at the age of seven, living in a community of only males for 10 years. Their skin is pierced to remove "contamination" brought upon by interaction with women, and they consume large amounts of sugarcane to incur nose-bleeding and vomiting. They drink the semen of their elders to retain growth, strength, and sexual potency, and when they are reintroduced to society, they continue their nose-bleeding habit to mirror their wives' menstrual cycle.

Australia
For the faint of heart, turn away now. The Mardudjara Aborigines of Australia have one of the most shocking boyhood-to-manhood transformations out there. At the age of 10 or 12, a boy has his front tooth knocked out and his septum pierced. He is considered symbolically dead at this point, and then he is taken into the wilderness by other men, circumcised, and then expected to ingest his foreskin without chewing. He is mute throughout the entire process. Then his penis is cut lengthwise on the underside, the blood is dripped over a fire to purify it, and from then on the male urinates from the underside of his penis. Then all of the men go hunting, return to camp with food and covered in blood, and the boy is considered reborn as an adult male.
 

We've all been there: Sex with your partner is good, but it's thisclose to being mind-blowing. But, while you probably know what it takes to get you off, spelling out exactly where he's going wrong can be a little…soul-crushing.

So what can you do? Experts swear it's possible to teach your partner to be better in bed without hurting anyone's feelings.

"We should all be teaching one another," says Jessica O'Reilly, Ph.D., Astroglide's resident sexologist. No one is born a great cook—it's a skill you cultivate. … We really should treat sex the same way and draw from a variety of sources, bearing in mind that there is no right way to cook or have sex—we each have very different tastes."

It might actually go over better than you'd think, says licensed marriage and sex therapist Kat Van Kirk, Ph.D. "Technique can certainly be taught," she says. "In fact, most partners welcome the information."

Of course, saying "this just isn't working for me" in the heat of the moment isn't going to go over well, but there are things you can do and say to teach your S.O. to push the right buttons. Here's what experts recommend:

Speak up in bed

In bed, offer a little guidance and tell your partner what you like. "Any feedback is good feedback as long as it's constructive," Van Kirk says. "Partners need information and you should feel empowered to give it. You deserve it, after all." She recommends non-verbal cues, like pulling him in, moving his hand with yours, or kissing him more deeply when he hits the right spots, as well as using sounds (think: moaning louder) when something feels good. You also shouldn't be afraid to ask for more when something feels right, O'Reilly says. And, when you're talking after sex, you can be specific about what really did it for you.

Let GoT be your guide

When you're watching something sexy with your partner, point out stuff that seems hot, like how two characters undress each other, and how they interact, O'Reilly says. If there's a particular move or position that turns you on, say something about it.

Take the reins

If you're looking to mix things up (and want to make sure you get your rocks off in the process), play the role of dominatrix, O'Reilly says. Tell your partner you're in charge tonight and then give explicit instructions on what you want him to do to you. It's a great way to get across what turns you on—with feedback—without being obvious that the regular stuff isn't working for you.

Show exactly what you want—on your partner

If you know a little nipple action or oral is what gets you going, do it to your partner first. Rub, kiss, and lick him the way you'd like him to do it to you, O'Reilly suggests—he'll likely return the favor. And, if he doesn't get the hint, gently guide his hands/head toward the area you want or simply say, "Now, it's my turn."

Trade sexual favors

Odds are, your partner has something that really does it for him, too, so offer to trade sexual favors, O'Reilly suggests. Tell him plainly: If he does [insert hot move here] for you, you'll reciprocate with the move of his choice. Just talking about it will get you both revved up.

Above all, experts say you shouldn't be afraid to take action. After all, your S.O. won't know about your needs if you don't share them—and will likely welcome the feedback.

On World Cancer Day and everyone is encouraged to wear pink colours as a symbol of support to those who are affected by this dreadful illness.
Here are the signs and symptoms of cancer:
1. Irregular borders on moles (ragged, notched, or blurred edges)
2. Moles that are not symmetrical (one half doesn’t match the other)
3. Colours that are not uniform throughout
4. Moles that are bigger than a pencil eraser
5. Itchy or painful moles
6. New moles
7. Sores that bleed and do not heal
8. Red patches or lumps

Ways to protect yourself

1. Avoid prolonged exposure to the sun when possible.
2. Wear sunscreen with a minimum of SPF 15.
· SPF refers to how long a person will be protected from a burn. (SPF 15 means a person can stay in the sun 15-times longer before burning.) SPF only refers to UVB protection.
3. To protect against UVA, look for products containing: Mexoryl, Parsol 1789, titanium dioxide, zinc oxide, or avobenzone.
4. Sunscreen performance is affected by wind, humidity, perspiration, and proper application.
5. Throw away sunscreens after 1–2 years (they lose potency).
6. Apply liberally (minimum of 1 oz) at least 20 minutes before sun exposure.
7. Apply to ears, scalp, lips, neck, tops of feet, and backs of hands.
8. Reapply at least every 2 hours and each time a person gets out of the water or perspires heavily.
9. Some sunscreens may lose their effectiveness when applied with insect repellents.
10. You may need to reapply more often.
11. Wear clothing with a tight weave or high-SPF clothing.
12. Wear wide-brimmed hats and sunglasses with UV protection and side panels.

A good sex life takes time and effort to maintain. It won’t always be easy — our busy lives are taxing and often leave us tired and devoid of the imagination and motivation required to keep up the pace.
Having good sex doesn’t necessarily mean spending hours and hours of frolicking or adding a few sex toys for women into the mix, it can be as simple as doing something a little different just for a change.

Women are cyclic creatures, and her sex drive will vary depending on her hormones and what’s going on in her life. Sometimes it takes a bit longer to get her hot and the same-old song and dance may not be enough. This applies to you too. Therefore, it’s important to add a few more stimulating aspects to your sex life to keep things interesting.

Here are 10 tips for better sex, which should keep the two of you hot for some time to come.

1. Use A Blindfold
Sexual pleasure has many dimensions, but the most important sexual organ we have is our brain. When one sense is hindered, our other senses — via the brain — clamor to compensate. For example, a deaf person has increased sensory awareness — sight, smell, touch, and vibrations. For No. 10 entry on our 10 tips for better sex guide, we’re telling you that you can tap into this innate ability of ours and use it to your advantage: Blindfolding your partner increases her sensory awareness. She doesn’t know where you are or what you are going to do next. This creates anticipation for better sex — the tease. Tease her mercilessly with sensory objects, such as a feather or your tongue. Start off softly, as this excites her nerve endings and makes them far more sensitive. Be careful not to overstimulate the nerve endings, however, because after a while the neurons stop firing with such intensity and the sensation becomes null and void.

2. Try Being A Teacher – And A Student
After a while you may think you know how to please your partner in every way, but this is very rarely true. There is always something you haven’t tried, and there is bound to be something one of you always does that could be done differently.

To combat this, have a lesson session in which you don’t think you know it all, and are at each other’s mercy as teacher. Talk about things you haven’t tried, but would like to, then choose one suggestion from each partner, and get down and dirty. We often get caught thinking we know what our partners like, and after a while it becomes “the way it’s done.” Lose this myth and put yourself in the student’s chair for a while for better sex you won’t regret.

3. Trade Sensual Massages
Sensual touch is one of the most highly relaxing and sexy things you can do for your partner, which is why it makes it onto our 10 tips for better sex list. Our bodies are almost without exception tense in some area, if not many areas. This hinders our energy flow — including sexual energy flow. Imagine a car that has a clogged fuel filter: the fuel (our energy) can’t get to where it needs to go quickly and smoothly, and the car performs inefficiently and ineffectively.

A relaxing sensual massage can unlock her body to some very intense orgasms and much better sex in the end. The ability to relax your partner in this way should be high on your list of skills to master. The same goes for her: The difference between a deeply relaxing massage and a sensual massage is in the manner of touch — you don’t want to relax her too deeply because she will probably fall straight to sleep.

The key in this case is to keep her senses alert, but her body relaxed. This means a firm touch, coupled with some sensory feather-light caresses. Once you’ve relaxed her major muscles — shoulders and back — work your way down to her buttocks. Strokes can then start to wander near to, but not on, her inner thighs, butt crease and vagina. Don’t forget her hands and feet — there are thousands of nerve endings in our hands and feet that are very sensitive to touch. If you have no idea what a good massage feels like or how to perform one, spend some time in “lesson time” with your partner and learn what you both like or just run your hands all over her body — all over. Don’t skip to the hot spots or you’ll ruin the effect.

4. Get Into Some Dress-Up
Pretending to be something you’re not comes easily to some people. However, it has its benefits when done for fun. Stepping out of the role of being “yourself” can be a fun way to give each other permission to behave differently for better sex. Playing the role of someone else during sexual play is a very enjoyable way to give your partner some different sensations, and try things that you haven’t done before. Role playing is a great way to have better sex and to have fun with your partner in a light-hearted but sexy way. It is often the woman who does the dressing up simply because A) They enjoy it; and B) They have the resources of clothes, underwear and makeup — but don’t forget that you can play too..

5. Talk About Your Fantasies
Talking about your fantasies with your partner is a very conducive form of sex play. It increases communication with your partner, which is of great importance, as well, it also helps you get to know each other better for better sex. Yes, you may be surprised by what comes out of her mouth, but this works both ways. Keep it light at first and don’t throw her in the deep end with fantasies about people you both know or reveal fetishes you aren’t sure about. Sit back with a glass of wine and keep your clothes on — for now. Fantasy play can also be incorporated into a game for better sex. Use your imagination, and keep it sexy. Take it in turns and see where it leads you.

6. Play A Game
Get a pack of cards and play strip poker for better sex. It may seem like something you would have done when you were in high school (given the opportunity), but adult strip poker is a good way to get naked. Once you are both naked (or nearly naked), you can start on the really fun part: A loss means the other person gets to choose what action is performed on them by the loser. Time limits like one minute on said action means that it is a prolonged game of seduction, which by the end will have you both clamoring to be both the winner and the loser. There are many other games you can play “strip” to, as long as there is regular winner and loser to reward and punish respectively. The great part about these games is that you can both ask the other person to do something in a certain way that you may not necessarily have ever done before. It can get rather filthy, and definitely lead to better sex in the end.

7. Talk Dirty
Talking dirty has turned people on for millennia and will continue to do so because it has something other sex play doesn’t: words. Because our brains are our largest sexual apparatus, we respond to the spoken word automatically — especially when someone says our name. The spoken word evokes emotions, sensations and blood flow to various regions, depending on the topic. This works very much in your favor when it comes to talking dirty to your lover because women are especially susceptible to what goes in their ears (and I don’t mean cotton buds or ear candles). Talking dirty is, however, an art form and when done badly can result in fits of giggles (which, lets face it, ain’t so bad but isn’t quite the goal here). Don’t let this deter you.

Start off easy with neutral dirty-talk topics, such as how you feel inside her, how much you are enjoying the act and what you would like to do to her next. Don’t get too carried away, but let it flow out of you. Dirty talk can be a bit daunting at first, if you are not used to verbalizing these things, so practice. You will see how she responds to you. Dirty talk also comes under the “encouragement” category — when she sees that you like something very much, she will be more interested in doing it more. The rawness of the sexual passion aroused with dirty talk is why it is so effective. Be careful with swearing too much — though a good dose of foul language is part and parcel with dirty talk (its not called dirty talk for nothing), too much swearing/name calling can be a turn off. Try to stick to positive words, and leave the commonly used insult words out. Watch what you call her body parts too — just make sure she can handle it before launching into your tirade of filth. Chances are, the passion from you will ignite hers two-fold.

8. Try Some New Positions
You already know how to bring her to orgasm in two ways (probably). You repeat these regularly because they work — there’s no harm in that. However, if you never, ever try any new positions again, how will you ever know? New positions need a reasonably high level of arousal in your lover, so choose your time to strike a new pose when she is quite obviously feeling very randy.

There is no limit to the number of ways to have sex, so you can use your imagination and come up with as many weird and wonderful inventions as you desire. Simply changing locations can dramatically change the position, so consider this too (for example on top of the washing machine, on a bench, beanbag or table).

9. Use A Cock Ring
Cock rings slow the drain of blood out of your erection, and keep you harder for longer. A very hard penis stimulates a woman’s insides slightly differently — and much better — than one that is getting soft around the edges. Cock rings are inexpensive and usually nice to look at, and make an interesting male sex toy to add to your collection. Cock rings ensure that you can maintain the pace without faltering for better sex. This is very pleasing to your lady friend.

10. Try A New Place
Sex in a new locale is definitely up there in exciting things to do for better sex. You can take a drive somewhere secluded where you can get a bit risqué. Try a public place (not too public) or simply move to a different room or area in your home — or even someone else’s home. Whatever tickles your fancy. There are a million and one different places to have sex other than your home, in your bed — use them.

The list of helpful hints you have been presented with equates to a very good head start to a better sex life. The time and energy required to plan your adventures will pay off immediately, but also over the longer term. You will be rewarded according to the effort you put in with a great new skill set, and of course better sex. Make time, conserve some energy for it and relax. Life is short!

WHEN it comes to sex, men and women have always had theories about how to size each other up.

Some people claim that certain attributes like a man’s hands can tell them if he is well endowed or not, while some claim that a woman’s choice of drink at a bar can tell you if she is conservative in bed or a total wild cat!

While some of these theories are completely unfounded, have you ever wondered what your favourite sex position reveals about your personality or the nature of the person you are dating?

We asked top sexologist Dr Elna McIntosh and relationship counsellor Lethabo Ntsasa to narrow down popular sex positions and the kind of personalities they are indicative of.

1. The missionary position
This is probably the most common sex position out there. It basically involves the man being on top of the woman. Dr McIntosh says this is the perfect position for men who like to show off their skill.

"This position is for the 'gym guys’ that like to show off upper body strength. It gives the man total control, and that can translate to being selfish," she says.

What it says about the woman: "She is very timid, and very submissive to her man. She is probably a bit shy, or even conservative. She enjoys the feeling of closeness that comes with this position," says Ntsasa.

What it says about the man: "He is not afraid of intimacy, and probably cares about the person he’s making love to. Remember, this position involves a lot of eye contact, and the leeway to kiss and nibble as much as possible, which can be a sign of intimacy," he says.

2. The doggy style position
This is the position that involves penetration from the rear end, with the other partner facing the other way, usually on their knees. Dr McIntosh says that it is usually more pleasurable to the male in the situation.

"The doggy-style position offers deep penetration, but there is not much direct clitoral stimulation, which can suit the selfish man that likes to perform to a mirror and watch himself, while chances of his partner having an orgasm in this position is virtually zero."

What is says about the woman: "She’s a pleaser. She is definitely not afraid to relinquish control and let her man have his way with her. This can signify a woman who puts others before her own needs," Ntsasa says.

What it says about the man: "He has a fear of intimacy. This is the kind of guy who prefers a lack of eye contact, so that he can drift off into his own world and have his fantasies."

3. Woman on top
This is a position that is the opposite of the missionary position, as it involves the woman being on top. Dr McIntosh says this is a favourite for lazy men.

"This position is definitely for the 'I don’t like to do any work man ’– she is bound to orgasm due to direct clitoral stimulation. It is a position for guys with the more chilled and laid-back personality."

What it says about the woman: "It can definitely reveal a bit of a perfectionist or control-freak personality, but it can also reveal an independent attitude, and a woman who has no self-deprecation issues," Ntsasa says.

What it says about the man: "This man has no problem being submissive to his partner. This position can definitely reveal a nonchauvinistic personality, and a deep respect for the woman," he says.

4. The standing position
This is the sex position where both partners are on their feet, but can balance with a wall or the shower to avoid tumbling down. The man can also do the heavy lifting and literally carry the woman up throughout the routine.

What it says about the woman: "She is willing to go the extra mile. She is also spontaneous, and likes to think out of the box."

What is says about the man: "He is an adventure seeker. He gets easily bored with monotony, and likes to try new things," Ntsasa says.

CONTROVERSIAL Zimdancehall artiste Soul Jah Love ‘Chibaba’ has defended his continuous absence at shows he would have been paid to perform at, saying this is due to diabetes, an ailment which he was diagnosed with when he was seven-years-old.

While some had since concluded that the artiste simply fails to perform as a result of drug and alcohol abuse, Soul Jah Love claims this is not the case as his blood sugar levels will be too low for him to perform.

Chibaba, real name Soul Musaka, shocked many during Wednesday’s Drive Time show on Star FM when he opened up about his condition to presenter – KVG during an interview.

“When I fail to pitch up to a show, it’s usually because my blood sugar levels will be very low. I can’t even give that as a reason because people just say I was high on drugs, which isn’t the case,” said Soul Jah Love.

He blamed the drug abuse rumours on his face which he said resembled that of a druggie.

“My face looks as if I’m a drug addict. My prayer is that God vindicates me and people who I’ve wronged to forgive me.”

The artiste, whose marriage to fellow dancehall artiste – Bounty Lisa – is always on an off, was quick to say only his close family and friends understood him and the struggles that he has been through.

“People who are close to me know how I live with diabetes especially my manager – Wallace, who’s also my friend. He’s seen me through it all, supporting me when I was low,” said Soul Jah Love.

Because of his ‘condition’, Soul Jah Love has had to fire most of his managers who would have failed to get him medication on time.

“My blood sugar levels once went low when I was at an airport in Kenya. My manager failed to get an injection for my insulin on time and

I really had difficulties stabilising my sugar levels.

“When I fire managers, people think I’m wrong, but it’ll be because they’d have failed to secure such critical stuff on time as I’ll sometimes be on the brink of death.”

Soul Jah Love said Dai Hupenyu Hwaitengwa, his forthcoming album, was inspired by his battle with diabetes, and is a project meant to make listeners appreciate life, especially good health.

“Dai Hupenyu Hwaitengwa is a very emotional album as I’ll be singing in a way that people can feel my pain through my voice.

I’m one artiste who prefers to sing about real issues unlike singing about flashy cars like Porsche or a double storey house that I don’t have.”

He said he is usually sick but prefers to be strong as he is passionate about his career.

“Even when I’m doing radio interviews like this one, I’ll be sick but I have to be strong because I’m doing it for my career,” said Soul Jah Love.

The artiste’s shows nationally are synonymous with controversy as Soul Jah Love does not pitch up for shows he is booked for, with many people questioning who is to blame for his behaviour.

In some instances, he takes to the stage, chants: “Chibababa . . . conquering” and leaves, angering many fans who are now convinced he will be taking them for a ride.

But two years ago, Chibaba ran out of luck as he was arrested in Mutare for allegedly defrauding show promoter and businessman, Esau Mupfumi of $750 after collecting his performance fee and failing to perform.

The Budiriro businessman who was shot dead by armed was also run over by their vehicle.

Lameck Murimi’s brother, Moses said the family was still in shock. “We are still yet to ascertain what transpired. As of now, all the family members do not know what exactly happened. We believe that he was ambushed at the gate,” he said adding that they were still not sure about the amount of money he was carrying.

“What we discovered missing were the two laptops that he usually moves around with in his vehicle and other documents,” Moses said.

Reports say robbers trailed him from his business premises in Budiriro before fatally shooting him.

Lameck operated bottle stores and a general dealer’s shop at Currant Shopping Centre in Budiriro.

National police spokesperson Chief Superintendent Paul Nyathi said no arrests had been made by late yesterday and investigations were in progress.

“Investigations are still in progress and we are still looking for the suspects. Anyone with information that might lead to their arrest should contact any nearest police station or contact the National Complaints Desk on (04) 703631,” he said.

He said investigations carried out so far revealed that after shooting Lameck, the robbers ran over him using their getaway vehicle before they fled the scene.

Lameck will be buried in Rusape on a date to be advised.

Source: Online

 Many reasons have been written before on why you should marry a Ndebele woman. Here are five more reasons :

She is Not Selfish – The backbone of a lasting marriage is self-giving, selflessness. This is a higher level of commitment. I am not saying you should lose yourself and become a ‘slave’. Ndebele women are raised to not be selfish, but to reciprocate love and give excessively to her family and children. I strongly feel it was Ndebele women who first demonstrated “Ubuntu”. That said, there is a difference between having healthy boundaries and being selfish.Selfishness causes a breakdown in intimacy and vulnerability and leads to always being suspicious of your partner. Healthy boundaries create an environment that fosters open, honest and respectful communication.

So if you meet a Ndebele woman who is not selfish, marry her.

She is Not Jealous – A lot of women are jealous by nature, and that doesn’t change when they get married. So I recommend the Ndebele woman who is taught to manage her jealousy for the sake of community living; for the sake of creating a happy home. I’m not talking about a woman who is prepared to ‘put up’ with anything. Yes, some may argue that a healthy level of jealousy is actually good for a relationship. A little is OK but too much of it brings insecurity, and is an expression of low self-esteem. A Ndebele woman does not behave in an unseemly manner. She has learnt how to balance her own expectations with that of others, and maintain her dignity.

If you meet a Ndebele woman who is not jealous, marry her.
She is Not Materialistic – The majority of Ndebele women dream of getting married to a man who will take really good care of them. A man that understands and lives the words – “for better or worse, until death do us part”. A Ndebele woman doesn’t want to get married for money, although there is nothing wrong with living a comfortable life. For a Ndebele woman, a happy family is more important than riches. .

If you meet a Ndebele woman who is not after your money, marry her.

She Loves S_ex but Won’t Cheat – Ndebele women love s_ex, for fun and procreation. She understands that s_ex isn’t everything in a relationship, but she will give you the best s_ex of your life – a close-to-heaven, out-of-body-in-your-body experience. Her desire is to be satisfied by the man she loves, and not to be satisfied for the sake of satisfaction.Her s_ex drive is high and she will satisfy her husband without complaining – especially not of a headache!

If you meet a Ndebele woman who loves s_ex and doesn’t cheat, marry her.

She Loves God – A Ndebele woman is always spiritual and you can’t divorce her from her beliefs. Prayer is not a routine but a lifestyle. The day starts and ends with prayer. She knows that her true beauty is revealed in the presence of God. She attends church regularly and has a good report among her peers. You will certainly be in good hands because daily, she will pray for your health, job, business, and children. She is a lover of Jesus and understands the value of His death on the cross. She talks the talks and walks the walk, and practices what she preaches.

Tendai Musekiwa is married to Felistas Chapoto .He grew up in 15th Crescent Glen View 1 , Harare.

He attended secondary school at Glen View  high school 2.From there he took a class 3 motor bike  licence when he was working as a messenger at TV sales. He then took a class 2 driver’s licence and worked for  Biddulphs transport. He later looked for work in  South Africa  as a gonyeti aka truck driver. He would steal petrol and diesel and lie to the employer that he was robbed.

He grew up in the same street with his wife Felistas Chapoto and the couple have four children , three boys and one girl.Felistas is sister to Apostle Chapoto.

Speaking to sisi Vee another source said ,

” Silent Killer atori tsotsi but zvatove worse coz akaita kuti sister yake iite mu neighbourhood inotopfeka uniform ye police ZRP kuvharidzira hutsotsi hwake hwemuno muzim.

Mukwasha wake is now running the kombi business iye when in zim he is always in town pamushika shika we Glen View pana mbuya nehanda na Speke in a white fortuner or white hilux d4d.

Akazovaka kuNorton but ku Glen View ndokune imba yavo panotonzi pa Lagos cz of a high security wall. The sister used to stay kuma avenues.”

Meanwhile Jah Prayzah’s  video shot at Tendai Musekiwa’s  farm outside Joburg where he is said to have visited the criminal for a promotional video seems to have been removed from the singer’s page.

” I remember very well Jah was in SA for Mudhara achauya video shoot. He took a break and visited silent killer’s farm where he shot a short video saying he is visiting his SA promoters farm to see what he is doing there. There were a number of blue trucks idling” said another source .

“He has big contracts with big SA companies for example all the raw cooking oil coming in Zim in bulk tanks. He is the sole transporter” said another source.

” Killer T, Jah Prayzah and several other musicians including mdara Thomas Mapfumo were once brought into SA by him.” Added the source.

Source : Online

 Studies have been done to find out how possible it is to extend the duration of the female or_gasm from between 6 to 30 seconds to a full minute.

1. Imagine your bedroom as an hotel room
The reason for this is that you need the place to be a complete relaxation place, a place where you can lay back and relax. If you’ve got kids, it needs to be a place where the kids cannot disturb and try as much as possible to make it romantic. The atmosphere has to make good that you can focus your mind on the pleasure you’re about to have.

2. Sweet words galore
How you and your spouse feel goes a long to make the one full minute org_asm a reality, if you feel good about yourself, the s_ex will definitely feel good. If you feel self-conscious, it will sap you s_ex drive faster than one of the five worst s_ex positions. Insecurity distracts you and inhibits your pleasure, says Nagoski.
Compliment her as much as you can, make her feel hot, make her feel wanted.

3. Dirty Talk is crucial
This is one way to get the best out of your partner in bed, Find out what your partner likes to hear, and what words turn them in and use those to stimulate those parts of her in ways she hasn’t imagined.
 
4. Don’t rush foreplay
Foreplay can get a lady closer to o_rgasm than you. Being brought to the brink of o_rgasm repeatedly will cause your arousal to spread throughout your whole body—resulting in a bigger, longer climax when you finally peak, says Nagoski. If she likes oral s_ex, then you need to learn how to do that, also take cues from her and how best to pleasure her senses using your mouth and perhaps your fingers too. Most importantly, take your instructions from her.

5. Be prepared
Planning is vital to this plan, it’s not just to start it. Working multiple s_ex acts into one session can help prolong your or_gasm because the variation creates more tension and arousal, says Van Kirk. Cover your basis for foreplay and s_ex itself.

6. Let him back off a little
When some women are on the brink of or_gasm, their clitorises become very sensitive. If that’s the case, asking him to stimulate you more gently may help you maintain your climax for longer, says Van Kirk.

Try these and you will never regret.Feel free to add more in the comments section.